Hi!! I’m Julia
Welcome to the Single Mother Survival Guide website! I’m really happy you found me 🙂
I’m guessing you’re on this website as you’re about to be, or already are, a single mother. Don’t despair. I know how you feel, and you’re not alone.
I became a single mum when my baby was 2 months old. She’s now 11. I’ll be honest, it wasn’t an easy road, and it took me a good couple of years to get my life back on track, but I did it! And you know what? I am happy. In fact, I am extremely happy… I’ve never been happier. And if you’re not already, you will get there too!
Yes, at first it can be challenging. It’s certainly an adjustment emotionally, physically, mentally and logistically. But most single mothers who have got through the first year or two of being a single parent are absolutely loving life, extremely happy, and have their life under control. And YOU will be there soon too!
The short and (sometimes not so) sweet
I live in Sydney, Australia.
I’m 41 and my daughter is 11 going on 16. She is a little lady with attitude.
I’m a CDC Certified Divorce Coach®, CDC Certified Divorce Transition and Recovery Coach.
I love to travel and we go away on a lot of little trips and weekends away as much as we can.
I love food (cooking and eating) and wine.
I love to walk (and attempt running) most days along with yoga (mainly for my mental health than anything else).
The beach is my favourite place in the whole world, and I love being out in the sun and in (or on) the water ☀
The most important things in the world to me are my daughter and husband (yes, re-partnering is possible), my other family members, and my friends.
I was filmed for a segment on a footy show I won’t name, about speed dating (one of my more cringe-worthy moments). Most recently, I was featured on The Morning Show and an SBS documentary, which is all about dating as a single parent.
I love to have dance-offs in the house with my daughter.
I am originally from Sydney Australia, but am currently living in rural QLD.
Let me tell you a story about how Single Mother Survival Guide came about…
When I became a single parent in 2013 I felt such a range of emotions. I felt despair, shame, and like a failure. I felt as though I’d let everybody down (especially my daughter). No one dreams of being a single mum. No one says “When I grow up I want to be a single mother #lifegoals”. But what I felt the most was that I was completely alone.
Obviously, I knew I wasn’t the only one going through it, but I didn’t really know any single parents with babies. I tried to find books to read about single parenting, and there really wasn’t a lot out there. The most I could find was the odd chapter in a parenting book.
I desperately wanted to connect with women who had been through the same thing. So the first thing I did was create a mothers group for single mums in my local area. There are now over 700 mums in that group. Through that, I got quite involved in the single mum community and as the years went on, and after I healed, I realised that I LOVED connecting with women who had just become single mums. I loved helping them. They were always so relieved when they found my mother’s group because they too had felt alone.
It doesn’t matter how many friends or family you have, at the end of the day you crave talking to people who have been through the same thing.
My passion for helping single mums had started and from there I wanted to help single mums not only in my area, but on a national, and even a global scale. So that’s why I started Single Mother Survival Guide.
These days? I’m a CDC Certified Divorce Coach®, CDC Certified Divorce Transition and Recovery Coach®, and mentor for single mothers all over the world.
I specialise in working with mothers who have lost themselves and their self-esteem, are stuck in a rut and confused about how to move forwards, and are feeling overwhelmed, alone, broken, afraid, embarrassed, and/or angry. They feel guilty and worried about how their breakup will affect their children, and are ultimately wanting change, but are not sure how to get there. They are living in survival mode.
I help them rebuild their lives, reconnect with themselves and gain back their self-esteem, feel secure and confident within themselves, get direction, and feel happy, hopeful, and excited about the future.
I am genuinely passionate about helping single mums get back on track and feel supported, and not alone. I know that, together, we can create the happy single mum life that I’m sure you want.
I am so excited that now I can connect with YOU, and help you on your path to settling into life as a single mother, creating a happier life, having a fresh start and taking control of the next chapter of your life!
What can Single Mother Survival Guide do for YOU?
As well as providing a community for single mothers, and providing informative, honest, and inspirational content through my website, blog, podcast, and social media; I do one on one coaching for single parents AND I run Thrive Tribe – a global membership experience for single mothers #myfavouriteplaceontheinternet 💗 Doors to open very often for the sacred space, so pop your name on the waitlist here, if you’re interested.
Official Bio
Julia Hasche is a blogger, podcast host, author, and mentor for single parents. She is also a CDC Certified Divorce Coach® and CDC Certified Divorce Transition and Recovery Coach®. She became a single mother in 2013 when her daughter was just a few months old and created Single Mother Survival Guide in 2016 to assist newly single mothers in all things they may need to know about. It aims to inform single mothers on relevant issues, support single mothers on their journey, inspire them, and motivate them to create the happy single mother life that they want. She does this by providing a community for single mothers, providing honest and inspirational content through her website, blog, podcast, and social media, her one-on-one mentoring and coaching, and her membership for single mothers – Thrive Tribe.
Julia also contributes to other online publications such as Kidspot, Mamamia, and Huffington Post, has been interviewed on many podcasts (including Kidspot’s The Juggling Act), and has been live on Channel 7’s The Morning Show and The Daily Edition talking about single motherhood, and on SBS’s, The Swiping Game, talking single parenting, sex, and dating.
She lives in Australia with her daughter and husband.
Qualifications and Training
- CDC Certified Divorce Coach®
- CDC Certified Divorce Transition and Recovery Coach®
- Diploma in Mindfulness
- Qualified Yoga Instructor (RYT 200) with additional training in Yin, Restorative, Children’s Yoga, and Pre-natal
- Embodied Trauma Integration Teacher Training
- Additional training in poly-vagal theory and nervous system regulation and repair, integrating past pains and healing through Internal Family Systems Therapy®, somatic practices, releasing anger, and setting boundaries.
Get to know me and check out my top posts
- 17 Reasons Why Being a Single Mum is Awesome.
- 9 Reasons Why You Need to Find Your Single Mum Tribe.
- A Holiday Diary – a Single Mum and a Toddler.
- My Daughter’s Father Stayed With Me For 6 Days. Here’s What Happened….
- The Worst Part About Being a Single Parent: Saying Goodbye.
- What To Do If Your Ex Won’t Sign a Passport Application For Your Child.
Connect with me and say hi!
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- You can connect with me on Pinterest here.
- OR you can email me directly here – julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com
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I am SO happy to have you as part of the tribe! I hope you get a lot out of it 🙂
Love,
Julia xx
Testimonials
When I first reached out to Julia I was struggling with self-love. After our time together I have higher self confidence as I now see myself in a more positive light. Julia helped me reach my goals by giving me practical tools to help me plan, prioritise and focus on making time for myself. I became emotionally stronger and I became more focused on my goals. I would definitely recommend reaching out to Julia. She is so approachable and supportive and her program really does help change your mindset. Having the positive encouragement from Julia to be that voice to remind me that I CAN do it was something I benefited from the most. Thank you for everything Julia, the mentoring from you was amazing.
J.D Australia
I came across Julia’s website during a particularly low point in my life. I had been a single Mum for 5 years and I was exhausted! I never took time out for myself and I was not enjoying myself at all. With Julia’s help, I started to make small, positive changes to my life. It was challenging at times, I had barely thought about my own needs and wants in 5 years! But the changes were immediate. Since I’ve completed the program, I have maintained the changes I made and this has paved the way for me to make some other exciting decisions that will continue to improve my life. I feel like a different person now. I am more positive, I make time for myself and I’m excited about my life! Thank you Julia! I am so grateful for everything you have done for me and my son xx
E.V Australia
It was Christmas and I was feeling particularly down and depressed. My partner had left our little boy and I six months prior after admitting he was having an affair. It knocked me down and made me question so many things, including myself. It seemed everyone else was out celebrating the festive season with their families which made me feel more alone than ever. I knew of Julia after a friend of mine at work mentioned her podcast and I decided to reach out to her. I am so glad that I did. Julia’s commitment and support was evident right from the start – she went out of her way to arrange for us to have our initial complementary clarity call while she was holidaying with her family over Christmas!!! Julia took the time to really understand me and provided expert advice as well as practical exercises and tools. I always felt that we were a team, working together on my personal growth. I have done counselling before but have never come across someone as passionate and supportive as Julia or a program that is so personalised. I will forever be grateful to Julia for helping me grow and form new, positive habits.
G.G Australia
I hope this conveys how grateful I am to have found you and the help and guidance you gave me. You’re so beautiful and sincere, there’s no bullshit about you which is so refreshing and it allowed me to open up and trust you instantly…
I first started searching for someone like Julia at a time in my life when I wasn’t coping terribly well juggling everything and knew I needed some help.
My ex left me when I was 6 months pregnant so I’ve raised my daughter on my own for the last 4 years. Apart from the usual stresses of being a single mum, I had also been dealing with a number of other stressors and then one horrible week I broke my foot and my boyfriend and I broke up (which was the first relationship I’ve had since my ex left us) … and that just brought me undone!
Julia helped me through a very upsetting and emotional time. Being able to talk things through with someone that has had similar life experiences was so comforting. Julia tailored a program to suit my needs and helped me change my mindset and feel more in control and present in life.
Julia is a very special and lovely lady. She is an unbelievably supportive, passionate and genuinely warm and caring person. I felt instantly at ease speaking with Julia and am extremely grateful I found her when I did. Thank you Julia, you’re amazing x
M.J Australia
Dear Julia, – I wanted to write all week just to let you know a couple of things, now that it has been a couple of weeks since we finished up.
First of all THANKS AGAIN, – I really enjoyed the 3 months with you, I felt like I was ‘held’ somehow, in that time, and that all these things which I was addressing privately, then came out in real life and I was able to practice responding and learning, – it was such a beautiful experience, – very profound for me. I DO feel empowered now, very strongly, and very secure suddenly.
When I first reached out to you I was struggling with time management, sleep, and feeling motivated. I felt totally muddled and mentally exhausted about what I was doing with my life and how to get anything done. My diet was terrible, I had no control over my spending, I was unhappy where I lived and had been feeling angry for over a year about a broken friendship. I also didn’t exercise enough and was in a bit of a quiet mess.
Breaking down my negative thoughts was such a big part of the process for me, because I learned to recognise how I was feeling and how an alternative, more positive way of dealing with things looked. I soon realised that I was having a few very similar negative thought patterns constantly and that made it much easier to recognise while I was having them. Now I can stop a thought process from getting too dramatic or negative, by recognising it, and seeing it in a much more positive light.
During our time together I also let go of the anger and guilt I felt over the breakdown of my friendship. This was massive for me, and I really did let it go and forgive myself for my part in it. I also started to run on almost every day which I was not at work and made this a ‘non-negotiable’ event in my week. I scheduled time in to run and then I just did it.
I really enjoyed the goal setting exercise and the vision board, because they really got me thinking, and starting to think, about what I want to do with my life, other than be a mother, and it has been very transformative already. It didn’t happen straight away but I am now starting to recognise goals and really long wished for and deep-seated desires start to want to be put into action, and so many of those were in some way on my vision board at the beginning, even in ways I didn’t realise at the time. I have it on my bedroom wall and I love it. The goals are also stacking up now!!! I have a lot of planning to do!!
I really can’t say that anything lacked or was missing or that you could improve on – other than I wish I could have carried on! I realise that the whole point of this is that you don’t get reliant on someone else too much, but I loved having someone to talk things through with. I can’t think of anything I would change – I initially specified a couple of areas which I didn’t think I needed to look at and you took those into account brilliantly.
I have loads of friends who have said to me “I wish I was a single mother too then I could call her up, she sounds amazing!!”. Working with you has truly been the best money I have ever spent and I feel like it has been a life changing experience for me – I cannot even begin to tell you how different I feel now to how I felt 3 months ago.
THANKYOU! Thank you so much. I know that you kept on saying it was me doing all the work etc etc, – and obviously that is true also, but you have put so much work into this to make it a structured and organised process, all the exercises and articles to read and different templates and things, – you have done immense work on it and then tailored it perfectly to the individual, – plus you bring yourself and your experiences and thoughts to it, so that it feels in the end like talking to a really motivated and inspiring friend giving you a kick up the arse. I loved that so much, and that it wasn’t a one-way conversation like one might have with a therapist who never gives you anything of themselves.
I am in complete awe of all that you have achieved over the last 5 years and REALLY want to thank you so much. It has been a really extraordinary 3 months and I feel really sad it’s over.
Anyway I could just ramble on all night but better go, and just wanted to say THANKS for all once again and that I am sending you all my love and support and thanks and a million hugs for helping me to find myself again. I think you are doing AMAZING work. I do hope that one day we can have a bottle of wine together and laugh our heads off. MUCH love xxxx
M. R Scotland
Thank you Julia. You have really changed my life and my kids’ lives for the better!!! When I reached out to you I was struggling with deciding whether to leave my relationship or not and whether I would cope on my own emotionally, financially and mentally. But working with you I felt confident with my decision to leave and that I had tried everything to fix the relationship. I felt confident I could cope this time because I had you who I could reach out to. And I felt empowered and started to love myself and realize I deserved better and I deserved to be happy!!!
I loved the present and handwritten card! It made my day receiving it in the mail!!! And using it has changed my thinking and my life!!! I would absolutely recommend working with you to anyone I know! I couldn’t have asked for a more honest, supportive, resourceful, caring, friendly mentor!!!! Best money I’ve ever spent and should have done it ages ago!!!
C.B Australia