Category: Mental Health

The day I realised I let my daughter down

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The day I realised I let my daughter down.

This blog post is a bit different. It’s not what I would usually write about, but writing is therapeutic for me and I feel I need to get my thoughts and feelings out, and on to paper (so to speak). I also want to answer some of the common questions I have been getting because I am completely overwhelmed with messages and emails at the moment (which is also super lovely) about what happened to my daughter and I last week with the Instagram impersonator.

The 19th September was an awful day for me. I had just clicked on my notifications on Instagram when I noticed the very top notification; it was the last person who had liked one of my photos. I didn’t recognize the name or handle, but it was the Instagram user’s profile photo that caught my eye. It was a photo of my daughter and I in the Blue Mountains.Continue Reading →

How I got through the dark days

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How I got through the dark days

Every time my daughter is away I worry that my ex may not bring her back. It’s a feeling I hope most won’t ever know. But for a small percentage of us, the possibility is real.

And so I go through a period of a few dark, dark days. And even though I’ve spent years working on my mindset, sometimes the darkness is hard to shake.

Last week was one of those dark periods.

And if you can relate to that fear, then you are not alone. I hope that by sharing some strategies that worked for me, perhaps you will find some that will work for you too.

So what did help me get through the darkness?Continue Reading →

Why forgiveness is crucial for single parents

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Forgiveness.

Is it even possible for single parents? And more importantly: What is the cost to you if you can’t forgive?

Sometimes as a single mum it is hard to forgive an ex-partner. One of the most common things I hear from the women I first start working with is: I will never ever forgive him for what he has done to our family!

The problem with this mindset is that if we don’t take responsibility for our own reactions, then we are enforcing the victim mentality and not taking control of our own lives. We are allowing ourselves to be impacted by whatever horrible situation has happened, and we are not taking positive steps to take charge of our own life.Continue Reading →

Eight ways to survive Easter without your kids

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Eight ways to survive Easter without your kids.

I always imagined special occasions without kids would be tough. But now I have to face the reality as my daughter spends Easter with her dad. This will be the first ever special occasion she has with her dad. And the first special occasion since becoming a mum that I will be alone. I have to get through Easter without her.Continue Reading →

Seven Ways To Look After Your Health When The Kids Are With Their Dad

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Seven Ways To Look After Your Health When The Kids Are With Their Dad

I am just at the tail end of another week without my daughter whilst she is with her dad. Regular readers (or listeners to my podcast) will know that it doesn’t happen all that frequently. But approximately every two months my daughter will have a week with her dad. Our daughter is starting school next month, so the routine will change and it will mainly be school holidays from here on in.Continue Reading →