Two months ago I celebrated five years of single parenting. How that rolled around so quickly I do not know.
Wait… “celebrated”? I hear you ask…
Yes, celebrated! Because I’m doing it! I’m raising a child all by myself. And she’s the most amazing human! And THAT is something to celebrate (I didn’t go out partying or anything, but I definitely gave myself a high five). Continue Reading →
Every time my daughter is away I worry that my ex may not bring her back. It’s a feeling I hope most won’t ever know. But for a small percentage of us, the possibility is real.
And so I go through a period of a few dark, dark days. And even though I’ve spent years working on my mindset, sometimes the darkness is hard to shake.
Last week was one of those dark periods.
And if you can relate to that fear, then you are not alone. I hope that by sharing some strategies that worked for me, perhaps you will find some that will work for you too.
Dreading Mother’s Day? I hear you. This is going to be my fifth Mother’s Day as a single mum, and my sixth as a mum. My first Mother’s Day was the worst. Don’t I sound tragic? My relationship with my daughter’s dad was on the rocks (in fact, we split up about a week later). I had been looking forward to the day; hoping to get some kind words from my partner about how I was the best mum in the universe, and our daughter was so lucky to have me. Yeah right….Continue Reading →
Sometimes as a single mum, especially a newly single mum, it can be difficult to feel positive. For me, this happened a lot. Especially around 18 months in of being a single mum. I had an almost two-year-old, who was very challenging. My ex was sending me abusive text messages every week. His family was being very mean to me as well. On top of that, I was trying to juggle work and single mum life.Continue Reading →
Is it even possible for single parents? And more importantly: What is the cost to you if you can’t forgive?
Sometimes as a single mum it is hard to forgive an ex-partner. One of the most common things I hear from the women I first start working with is: I will never ever forgive him for what he has done to our family!
The problem with this mindset is that if we don’t take responsibility for our own reactions, then we are enforcing the victim mentality and not taking control of our own lives. We are allowing ourselves to be impacted by whatever horrible situation has happened, and we are not taking positive steps to take charge of our own life.Continue Reading →