Five ways to attract more positive energy to your life

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Five ways to attract more positive energy to your life.

Sometimes as a single mum, especially a newly single mum, it can be difficult to feel positive. For me, this happened a lot. Especially around 18 months in of being a single mum. I had an almost two-year-old, who was very challenging. My ex was sending me abusive text messages every week. His family was being very mean to me as well. On top of that, I was trying to juggle work and single mum life.

Life was a struggle and I felt like I was living Groundhog Day. I couldn’t see myself getting out of it, and I found it difficult to see the light in what sometimes felt like an impossible situation. Is this what life is about? I asked myself frequently. Because it kinda sucks.

But what I found was, that the more I focused on what was WRONG, the worse it got.

The thing is, we really do attract what we focus on. Our focus becomes our reality. So whatever we pay a lot of attention to will affect who we become. For example, if we are spending all our time and energy thinking about how unfair life is – we will find evidence to support that. Life will feel boring if that’s what we believe it to be. If we are always thinking about how angry we are at our ex and how entitled we are to feel angry, we will continue to feel angrier and angrier. And we will find more to be angry about. If we keep thinking about what frightens us, we will be more scared. If we don’t love ourselves, the way we act and the choices that we make will reflect that. When we are dating, and even before we start dating again, if we believe that all men (or women) are bad, we will LOOK to find evidence to support that. Ha, SEE? Another asshole! we’ll tell ourselves….

Over the years, I found some strategies that really helped me to focus on the positive and attract positive energy to my life, and I want to share some of my FAVES with you here.

Attracting Positivity.

1. Keep a gratitude journal.

Every day (since 2016) I write down three things that I’m grateful for and this has made me a much happier person because I’m grateful for all the little things in my life. Eventually, throughout the day, you’ll start to LOOK for things to be grateful for, and you will notice them a lot more. I have found that there is always something to be grateful for, no matter how small. You just have to look for it.

2. Create a vision board.

Looking at my vision board is one of my favourite ways to keep myself inspired, on track with my long-term goals and filled with positive energy. Even the process of creating a vision board allows us to dream big and open our minds up to what we want to achieve, and what we want in our lives. It also starts us thinking about the path we need to take to get us there. Looking at our vision board each day gives us motivation, inspiration and positive energy to put in work to achieve our goals. It also gives us direction, and clarity, and reminds us every day of what our purpose is.

3. Surround yourself with positive people.

Jim Rohn famously said that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. I love love LOVE his quote. If you are spending your time with negative people who constantly whinge, complain, bitch, and judge other people, you’re not doing yourself any favours. You will attract more negative energy to your life. On the flip side, if you surround yourself with happy and positive people, you too will feel more happy and positive. Spend time with those who support you, who lift you up, who celebrate others, and who have positive energy. Maybe it’s time to re-adjust some relationships with people. You don’t have to cut the negative people out of your life altogether if you don’t want to, but try reducing the amount of time you spend with those who pass on toxic or negative energy to you. Asking yourself how you feel, after spending time with someone, is a great way to do this. Do you feel uplifted, energized and motivated? Or drained and down?

4. Shut down your inner critic.

You know that voice in your head who says “You look faaaaat!”, “That barista hates you”, “That is not good enough”, “Your house is always a mess”, “You could never do that”….? Would you say that to a friend? I think not. Don’t listen to that bitch. What she says is not a FACT. She’s just stopping you from reaching your full potential.

5. Find something that you love that ignites your soul.

Find a passion project or something fun you can do in your spare time. What spare time? I hear you say. Do you know who left Bachelor in Paradise last night? That’s your spare time right there. We all have the same amount of time in a day. How you choose to spend it is up to YOU! Don’t spend ALL your spare time doing something that will make you happy right then at that moment, or to fill some sort of void. Spend SOME of your spare time doing something that will make you happier long term, and ignite your soul.

Remember, if you notice and pay attention to the positive, hopeful, supportive, uplifting and encouraging things and people in your life – that will become your reality. If you see yourself as a victim in life, that is what you are going to get back from the universe. Every day we choose.

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