Coaching Programs for Single Parents
I am a Certified Divorce Coach and a Certified Transition and Recovery Coach for mums. Women come to me because they are:
- Thinking about separating from their partner or spouse (or think it may be coming).
- Are going through a separation. OR
- Have come out the other side but have lost themselves and their self-esteem, are stuck, and are unsure or unable to move forward.
Here are some of the ways I help:
- I work with mums to make hard decisions about whether to end a marriage and what their future looks like that (and that of their children) by being informed, prepared, emotionally regulated, and strategic so they get clear about what they want and feel good about their choices.
- I work with mums who are feeling overwhelmed by the emotional part of divorce and teach them how to manage big feelings so they can focus and work out what it is they want moving forward with strategy, intention, and knowledge so they are prepared to make decisions that will affect the rest of their lives, as well as their children’s lives.
- I help women prepare for mediation or court by identifying their goals and priorities so they know what they want, developing effective communication strategies, showing up as their best selves, and improving their chances of a successful outcome.
- I help mums experiencing conflict in co-parenting protect themselves through communication and boundaries so they can have a peaceful co-parenting environment leading to increased mental well-being and happiness.
- I help mums who have come out of a separation or divorce but have lost themselves and their self-esteem, are stuck in a rut, and are unsure or unable to move forward. They feel overwhelmed, alone, broken, afraid, embarrassed, and/or angry. They may feel guilty and worried about how their breakup will affect their children and ultimately want change but aren’t sure how to get there. They are stuck in a state of dysregulation or living with unresolved trauma.
Reasons to work with me:
- I help you save money through the divorce process, make hard decisions you feel good about, and reduce conflict to reach a better outcome for everyone. It’s all about setting yourself up for success through intention, knowledge, and strategy so you are confident and prepared.
- I help with coping strategies so you can show up as your best self, reduce conflict, and make decisions in your divorce (and beyond) you feel good about.
- I help you rebuild your life, reconnect with yourself, regain your self-esteem and self-confidence, regulate your nervous system, get direction, transform trauma, set goals, and feel happy, hopeful, and excited about the future.
My passion started after becoming a single mother myself in 2013, with a newborn baby. I was a single mum for 8 years.
My friend, I see you. I know you are worried about your kids and if they will be okay. It’s hard being a one-woman show and doing it all alone. I know there are NEVER enough hours in the day, and how is it even possible to do ALL the things? It’s such a juggle. I know you are tired of making every single decision about EVERYTHING, every single day. It’s relentless. I get it. I know you feel tired, anxious, and hopeless and are wondering if it will always be this way. If you will always feel hurt and angry. It happens in an instant. One day you are there and the next day here. Married, Parent, Divorce. I know you are suffering from co-parenting and communication problems and constant reminders – it’s hard to heal trauma when it’s in your face every week. I understand. I know you wish you could get your confidence back, and heal from trauma. You wonder if you will be okay. You don’t want to feel unworthy. I know you want to be happy now. I’ve been there too, and I understand. There is nothing wrong with feeling this way and nothing is “wrong” with you. These are very natural emotions and fears and they are very valid. I’m here to help and I’m here to hold your hand on this journey.
The transition period is tough. The decision happens instantly but the internal transition to this change takes much longer. It’s letting go of the way things were and taking hold of the way they are becoming. And in between the letting go and the taking hold is when things are not the old way but aren’t the new ideal way yet either. The good news is that the transition period is a predictable process. But how quickly it goes depends on how much you are willing to let go and engage in the process of exploring and experimenting.
I want you to feel happy about life and have a plan to move forward that EXCITES YOU. I want you to reach a place of acceptance and closure. I want you to have self-confidence, to feel WORTHY, and love yourself just as you are. I want you to feel emotionally regulated and able to manage the hard feelings. To not be affected by what your ex says or does. I want you to feel confident that your kids will be okay and will thrive. I want you to heal from heartbreak and trauma. I want you to have the time to rediscover yourself and to manage ALL the things with minimal stress. I want you to thrive and live your best life, not just survive. I want you to have a healthy relationship one day, when the time is right.
You are not alone, I’ve got you. Let’s make this dream happen together.
If you are interested, please get in touch with me or book a free 30-minute call to chat. All my coaching is done online so it doesn’t matter where you are! I work with women all over the world, and I would love to work with you too.
I know we can work together to make you happier, empowered, and armed with the knowledge to make your life incredible.
Testimonials
When I first reached out to Julia, I was struggling with being stuck and not being able to move forward in my life after a very traumatic relationship and incredibly stressful court process. With Julia’s help I identified the area/goals that I wanted to improve on and broke down the steps I needed to take to get there. After working with Julia, I felt more organised, positive, and strong. I would absolutely recommend. Julia, you are just so genuine, caring and open and you make it so easy to connect with you! You are completely non-judgmental and you give the good the bad the ugly. I looked forward to our sessions at night, the grounding meditation to begin with and then getting into the nitty gritty and finishing off feeling much more positive. You do such an amazing thing for so many women who are fighting to just stay afloat. The information you share, the way you connect women with each other and the way you share your own life.
A.C Australia
When I first reached out to Julia, I was struggling self-love. With Julia’s help I was able to reach my goals by through the practical tools she gave me to help me plan, prioritise and focus on making time for myself. After working with Julia, I became emotionally stronger, put in some boundaries, and got rid of my toxic ex. I also now have higher self-confidence as I now see myself in a more positive light, and I became more focused on my goals. I would most definitely recommend hiring Julia as a coach! She is so approachable and supportive and it really does help change your mindset. Just thank you for everything Julia, it was amazing.
J.D Australia
I came to Julia an absolute mess. I really thought I was at a stage that I couldn't be helped. I was so overwhelmed with everything that was happening in my life. I really felt like I was sinking. I saw Julia mention on her Instagram account the one on one coaching she offers and I couldn't get it out of my mind. I finally reached out to her and her excitement to help me made me cry. I finally felt there was hope for me and I felt safe and secure in her hands. Julia really listened to me and was guided by what I wanted to get out of our sessions together. This is the first time I had experienced that. It was at my own pace and what I wanted, not what someone else thought I should be doing. I really wanted to focus on the future not the past and Julia worked with me and kept me accountable for what I was wanting. She was my biggest cheerleader but also gave me the nicest of pushes to keep me on track when I needed it. I am so very grateful she did. With that I was able to stay focused and work on my amazing future. What I loved most about my sessions with Julia is that she is such a kind and loving person. She really wants to help people. It's her passion you can see it and feel it. It's not just a job she actually cares about you and wants to see the very best for you and she will do whatever she can to help make that happen. I would recommend Julia to everyone. I would actually say don't walk but run to make an appointment with her. The changes in my life in 8 sessions is amazing. I'm so positive now, I can see how to fix things when they come up and I finally have the confidence to go ahead with my little business. I am constantly using the tools and guidance Julia gave me to continue this on my own. I couldn't be where I am now without Julia. There aren't enough words to describe how grateful I am for her help.
K.T Australia
I came across Julia's website during a particularly low point in my life. I had been a single Mum for 5 years and I was exhausted! I never took time out for myself and I was not enjoying myself at all. With Julia's help, I started to make small, positive changes to my life. It was challenging at times, I had barely thought about my own needs and wants in 5 years! But the changes were immediate. Since I've completed the program, I have maintained the changes I made and this has paved the way for me to make some other exciting decisions that will continue to improve my life. I feel like a different person now. I am more positive, I make time for myself and I'm excited about my life! Thank you Julia! I am so grateful for everything you have done for me and my son xx
E.V Australia
It was Christmas and I was feeling particularly down and depressed. My partner had left our little boy and I six months prior after admitting he was having an affair. It knocked me down and made me question so many things, including myself. It seemed everyone else was out celebrating the festive season with their families which made me feel more alone than ever. I knew of Julia after a friend of mine at work mentioned her podcast and I decided to reach out to her. I am so glad that I did. Julia's commitment and support was evident right from the start – she went out of her way to arrange for us to have our initial complementary clarity call while she was holidaying with her family over Christmas!!! Julia took the time to really understand me and provided expert advice as well as practical exercises and tools. I always felt that we were a team, working together on my personal growth. I have done counselling before but have never come across someone as passionate and supportive as Julia or a program that is so personalised. I will forever be grateful to Julia for helping me grow and form new, positive habits.
G.G Australia
I hope this conveys how grateful I am to have found you and the help and guidance you gave me. You’re so beautiful and sincere, there’s no bullshit about you which is so refreshing and it allowed me to open up and trust you instantly…
I first started searching for someone like Julia at a time in my life when I wasn’t coping terribly well juggling everything and knew I needed some help.
My ex left me when I was 6 months pregnant so I’ve raised my daughter on my own for the last 4 years. Apart from the usual stresses of being a single mum, I had also been dealing with a number of other stressors and then one horrible week I broke my foot and my boyfriend and I broke up (which was the first relationship I’ve had since my ex left us) … and that just brought me undone!
Julia helped me through a very upsetting and emotional time. Being able to talk things through with someone that has had similar life experiences was so comforting. Julia tailored a program to suit my needs and helped me change my mindset and feel more in control and present in life.
Julia is a very special and lovely lady. She is an unbelievably supportive, passionate and genuinely warm and caring person. I felt instantly at ease speaking with Julia and am extremely grateful I found her when I did. Thank you Julia, you’re amazing x
M.J Australia
Dear Julia, – I wanted to write all week just to let you know a couple of things, now that it has been a couple of weeks since we finished up.
First of all THANKS AGAIN, – I really enjoyed the 3 months with you, I felt like I was ‘held’ somehow, in that time, and that all these things which I was addressing privately, then came out in real life and I was able to practice responding and learning, – it was such a beautiful experience, – very profound for me. I DO feel empowered now, very strongly, and very secure suddenly.
When I first reached out to you I was struggling with time management, sleep, and feeling motivated. I felt totally muddled and mentally exhausted about what I was doing with my life and how to get anything done. My diet was terrible, I had no control over my spending, I was unhappy where I lived and had been feeling angry for over a year about a broken friendship. I also didn’t exercise enough and was in a bit of a quiet mess.
Breaking down my negative thoughts was such a big part of the process for me, because I learned to recognise how I was feeling and how an alternative, more positive way of dealing with things looked. I soon realised that I was having a few very similar negative thought patterns constantly and that made it much easier to recognise while I was having them. Now I can stop a thought process from getting too dramatic or negative, by recognising it, and seeing it in a much more positive light.
During our time together I also let go of the anger and guilt I felt over the breakdown of my friendship. This was massive for me, and I really did let it go and forgive myself for my part in it. I also started to run on almost every day which I was not at work and made this a ‘non-negotiable’ event in my week. I scheduled time in to run and then I just did it.
I really enjoyed the goal setting exercise and the vision board, because they really got me thinking, and starting to think, about what I want to do with my life, other than be a mother, and it has been very transformative already. It didn’t happen straight away but I am now starting to recognise goals and really long wished for and deep-seated desires start to want to be put into action, and so many of those were in some way on my vision board at the beginning, even in ways I didn’t realise at the time. I have it on my bedroom wall and I love it. The goals are also stacking up now!!! I have a lot of planning to do!!
I really can’t say that anything lacked or was missing or that you could improve on – other than I wish I could have carried on! I realise that the whole point of this is that you don’t get reliant on someone else too much, but I loved having someone to talk things through with. I can’t think of anything I would change – I initially specified a couple of areas which I didn’t think I needed to look at and you took those into account brilliantly.
I have loads of friends who have said to me “I wish I was a single mother too then I could call her up, she sounds amazing!!”. Working with you has truly been the best money I have ever spent and I feel like it has been a life changing experience for me – I cannot even begin to tell you how different I feel now to how I felt 3 months ago.
THANKYOU! Thank you so much. I know that you kept on saying it was me doing all the work etc etc, – and obviously that is true also, but you have put so much work into this to make it a structured and organised process, all the exercises and articles to read and different templates and things, – you have done immense work on it and then tailored it perfectly to the individual, – plus you bring yourself and your experiences and thoughts to it, so that it feels in the end like talking to a really motivated and inspiring friend giving you a kick up the arse. I loved that so much, and that it wasn’t a one-way conversation like one might have with a therapist who never gives you anything of themselves.
I am in complete awe of all that you have achieved over the last 5 years and REALLY want to thank you so much. It has been a really extraordinary 3 months and I feel really sad it’s over.
Anyway I could just ramble on all night but better go, and just wanted to say THANKS for all once again and that I am sending you all my love and support and thanks and a million hugs for helping me to find myself again. I think you are doing AMAZING work. I do hope that one day we can have a bottle of wine together and laugh our heads off. MUCH love xxxx
M. R Scotland
Thank you Julia. You have really changed my life and my kids’ lives for the better!!! When I reached out to you I was struggling with deciding whether to leave my relationship or not and whether I would cope on my own emotionally, financially and mentally. But working with you I felt confident with my decision to leave and that I had tried everything to fix the relationship. I felt confident I could cope this time because I had you who I could reach out to. And I felt empowered and started to love myself and realize I deserved better and I deserved to be happy!!!
I loved the present and handwritten card! It made my day receiving it in the mail!!! And using it has changed my thinking and my life!!! I would absolutely recommend working with you to anyone I know! I couldn’t have asked for a more honest, supportive, resourceful, caring, friendly mentor!!!! Best money I've ever spent and should have done it ages ago!!!
C.B Australia
When I first reached out to Julia, I was trying to understand how I was to get me back following my husband leaving and becoming a single mum. It was great to talk to someone who didn’t know me, or the situation and wasn’t there to pass judgement. Completely and utterly there just me. You helped me put my brain in order and calm the panic voices in my head and put everything in order. You gave me my confidence back, and the belief I can do anything. Working with you, my confidence and belief grew. I recognised that I needed to look after me in order to look after my daughter. I started to laugh again. The best part was having someone to talk to, who was all about building me up. Someone who understood what I was going through but didn’t take any shit.I’d definitely recommend reaching out to Julia if you are after some coaching! You are an amazing lady, who helped make me, me again. Thank you.
S.R England
Julia has been a rock in the 12-18 months of my very shaky relationship. There have been many times I’ve messaged her to say it’s all over and then 2 days later we are trying again. I’m still sorting out my relationship and whether or not it’s finished, but there’s been no judging on Julia’s side. She’s been there responding to my hysterical rambling messages and even called me to talk through my fears and concerns about being a single mum. I’m not sure where the future will take me, every morning I wonder if it’s time to take the leap and join an amazing tribe and show my sons that women are strong and powerful. But I know that Julia will support me no matter what I do, and will (hopefully) always be there to pick me up, wipe the dirt off and get me back on my way again.
S.W Australia
I’m writing to gush and goss about just how effing fabulous you are and to THANKYOU(!!!!!!!) for saving my sleep and my sanity these past few weeks!! If not for you I would be an even bigger sleep deprived and über depressed zombie… I feel so validated and satiated when I hear you repeating back to me the positive affirmations of my newfound situation… you’ll never know how much you’ve done for me xxxxx.
F.M Australia
You are amazing - and I can't tell you how much I appreciate your support at the moment. You've helped me so much in the last few weeks and I don't think I could've got through it without you.
R.N Australia
I was struggling with so much when I first reached out to you. I was at a very low place in my life and felt so overwhelmed by everything from organising my room, to the fights with my sister, to making decisions on my own, to wanting to start my biz to self-care and the dog. And much more.You helped me so much you were able to sit on the side lines and look into my mess and simply put it in a format that helped plan out small steps that would help make huge changes in my life you also started each session with a meditation which was so beautiful and let me destress before we started. You allowed me to just talk and you really listened to then again be able to help me figure out how to make the changes that were needed.You were able to show my how capable I am in making decisions by myself. And boy have I taken that and run with it lol That I have a something valuable to offer to others with my biz. That I am worthy of an amazing life, that I'm enough just the way I am. The most delightful part was you!!! Your beautiful smiling face always there waiting to help. Not judging but always looking for the positive solutions no matter what the situation was. The encouragement you gave me from the first very minute to the very last (and ongoing) that I was able to do anything. Your honesty as well you didn't sugar coat anything (not that you were mean) just keeping me accountable. I have thought back to all our sessions together and I have to be honest and say there was nothing missing or lacking from our time together and I really tried to look for something for you lol, as I know you appreciate honest feedback. You were exactly what I needed and I really can't thank you enough.
Don't walk but run to make that appointment!!!! Julia is amazing. she helped me out with so many things in only 8 sessions and I would recommend the full 8 as I think you need them. My dear beautiful Julia as I have said now many times there are no words to describe how grateful I am for your help and support. I feel like a different person since the beginning of this part of our journey together (I'm here forever lol) I look back at those photos sometimes of my room then and now and my god what a transformation and that's how I feel about all the areas we covered. Thank you, thank you, thank you, I will be forever grateful for you and the help and tools you gave me to get through this. Much love always xx
K.T Australia