As a parent, it can be challenging to encourage your child to express their feelings. However, it’s important to teach your child healthy emotional expression, as it helps them to develop social skills, build self-esteem, and better manage stress.
It’s also crucial for kids to express their feelings after their parents break up because it helps them process their emotions which helps them heal and move forward. They also need to know that their feelings are acknowledged and that it is okay to feel the way they do. And it also allows them to share their concerns, ask questions, and seek clarity about the changes happening in their lives which provides reassurance.
Remember, every child is unique, and their responses to a parental breakup can vary. Some kids may express their feelings more openly, while others may be more reserved. It is essential for parents to create a safe and non-judgmental environment. This helps children feel comfortable expressing themselves in their own way.
Here are six tips to help children express their feelings.
1. Create a safe space.
Creating a safe and supportive space is key to encouraging your child to express their feelings. Be attentive when your child speaks, and avoid interrupting or dismissing their feelings. Let your child know that it’s okay to feel sad, angry, or upset and that you’re there to support them. They may also want to talk when you are not expecting it, so it’s important to try and give them the time to talk when they need it.
2. Use open-ended questions.
Instead of asking “How was your day?” try asking open-ended questions such as “What did you enjoy about today?” or “What was challenging about today?”. These types of questions encourage your child to initiate conversation and encourage children to express their feelings in more detail and open up more. By asking open-ended questions, you give children the opportunity to articulate their thoughts, feelings, and experiences.
3. Use emotion Words.
Encourage your child to use emotion words when expressing their feelings. For example, instead of saying “I don’t like this,” encourage your child to say “I feel uncomfortable with this”, or “I feel sad”. This helps your child to better understand and articulate their emotions.
4. Model healthy emotional expression.
Children learn by example, so it’s important to model healthy emotional expression. Even if it’s very hard during a break-up and you are also grieving. Try to be open and honest about your own emotions (without slagging off your kid’s other parent). Let them know it’s okay to feel sad. And when you do express your emotions, try to express them in a healthy and constructive way. This can include talking to a friend or family member, writing in a journal, engaging in creative activities such as painting or playing music, or participating in physical exercise to release pent-up energy.
5. Encourage creativity.
Encourage your child to express their emotions through creative activities such as drawing, painting, or writing. These activities can help your child better understand and process their emotions, and channel their feelings into a tangible form. This can help provide a sense of relief and emotional release. Creative activities also encourage children to visually represent their feelings, colours, and shapes, which can provide insights into their inner world.
6. Be patient.
Encouraging your child to express their feelings can take time, so be patient. Don’t force your child to share their feelings if they’re not ready. Instead, continue to create a safe and supportive space, and let your child know that you’re always available to listen.
When children express their feelings, it opens the door for parents to offer support and guidance. We can then provide comfort, listen attentively, acknowledge their feelings, and offer appropriate advice or get them professional help if needed. By acknowledging and working through their emotions, kids can learn to adapt to the new family dynamics and changes that come with their parents’ separation. This helps them build resilience and develop healthy and effective ways to deal with difficult situations later in life. I hope these tips to help children express their feelings help you, and your kids.
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